Each of the past few years, I’ve attended the Medical Professionals for Divine Mercy Conference at Holy Cross College in Worcester, MA. Having been in Pastoral Care for 5 years and now serving a few nursing homes as a Minister of Holy Communion, it is a great place to be with other people who bring the Divine Mercy to the sick and dying.
When you arrive at the conference, you get a little care-bag with a schedule and some other things in it. One of the things is a rubber red and white bracelet, with the words “Divine Mercy” and “Jesus I Trust in You” engraved in it. Well, when I got back from the conference in April 07, I gave that bracelet to my mother. She wore it every day since, and never took it off.
When she began to become sick with cancer in late March, she began to experience more anxiety, and she was also beginning to lose some of her dexterity. One day, as she was trying to cut off a hospital tag from her wrist, she accidentally cut the bracelet. She had found comfort in the bracelet, and she was heartbroken and asked me if I could fix it. Unfortunately, I couldn’t, and I tried to console her.
What never occurred to me was that I was planning to go to the conference again in a few weeks. When it came around, I had forgotten about the bracelet. I was so busy with what was happening with my mother’s health – she was in the hospital and not doing well – that I missed the first of the two days of the conference, and I made it just for a brief hour on the second day. I almost canceled altogether, but I made it. An hour drive out, an hour stay, and an hour drive back. That’s right: two hours of driving for one short talk, a bagel, and a coffee – that’s it.
But I got the bag!
When I looked through it, I saw the bracelet, and it’s only then that I remembered it. “How much You love her,” I said to the Lord in my heart. I was so happy to present it to her when I got back. On her last day in the hospital, she put it on and never took it off.
On my mother’s last night, she was fading and exhausted from the bout of vomiting and stomach cramps she was going through. We weren’t sure what was happening with her, so I thought at first I would cancel the evening plans I had and spend the evening just with her, to talk with her about the Lord and His Love, which we hadn’t done in a little while. But we all decided to bring her to the hospital. She was able to get dressed, but as we walked to the door with her walker, she was breathing very heavily and was distressed. I could see she was struggling and anxious, and I thought it was best for her to just lay down and rest, and I’d call an ambulance. At the same time, she lost all her energy, and she began to collapse. In a rush, I reached out to hold her under her arms, and said, “Ma, let go – I have you,” so that I could lay her down. When she let go, her heart had stopped and she wasn’t breathing. I called 911, and the operator coached me through CPR while the ambulance was on its way, but there was no response.
When the paramedics arrived, they took over, and I moved to the side of the room, on my knees, face to the ground, praying the Divine Mercy chaplet with all I had left. It didn’t look good at all.
I was afraid. In my mind, I’m thinking, this isn’t a happy, peaceful death. This is a distressing death. I couldn’t concentrate in prayer to pray the chaplet. There were no good signs.
I said to the Lord in my heart, “After all this, Lord, don’t let it be.” My heart desired something positive to find more hope in.
Just as I thought this in my heart, with my face on the ground, I noticed footsteps approaching me. I raised my head, and one of the paramedic crew was handing me something.
It was the bracelet.
Facing me in white were the words “Divine Mercy”.
“Who then shall separate us from the love of Christ? Shall tribulation? Or distress? Or famine? Or nakedness? Or danger? Or persecution? Or the sword? But in all these things we overcome, because of him that has loved us. For I am sure that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor powers, nor things present, nor things to come, nor might, nor height, nor depth, nor any other creature, shall be able to separate us from the love of God which is in Christ Jesus our Lord.” (Rom 8:35,37-39)